No holds barrel truth – life is about relationships – the ultimate union of course, is between man and woman – and as the Rebbe teaches: the greater the potential for good, like nuclear energy (creating incredible energy out of invisible particles) the greater the potential for destruction (nuclear bomb!) Hence, to actually have unity, there is but a single ingredient necessary, humility; and the only way (particularly men or anyone in the dominant role in a relationship) can maintain humility, is not have the relationship serve their needs (hence enhance their ego, hence turn them into a monster – insensitive, ego-driven etc.) Rather, see ALL that one does, as an extension of their Divine soul’s mission (for in the servitude to a higher cause, we both do what’s right, without thinking, we are, what’s right!!)