Never think people don’t like you, they are afraid of getting shamed! for people who have been shamed, which is self-evident in South Africa which unfortunately, for whatever reason, the Litvisheh background of the country, unlike the Chassidic methodology, uses shame to induce compliance, hence, are naturally (for example, if you get bitten by a dog you become afraid of all dogs, even cute little puppies,) hence, they really need to feel secure, before they allow their guard down – of course, I write this not to God-forbid shame anyone, but as a methodology of helping people become more friendly and lowering their guard, from not seeing warmth and love from others; for it is really fear of shame that we are encountering!