Man is like a car – in the beginning we are parked – then receiving love we develop – however what love does, is not only cause an attraction to whom loved (as love is reciprocal and to all that we compare, hence a child will generally assume all adults that he had a positive relationship with, are lovable, like “moms” etc.) simultaneously love induces an ego – now ego is important, without a certain sense of self-love and expectation, we cannot develop (as children left in orphanages, though fed, but lacking love, develop no desires) however as we see in a two year old, it is literally like putting a two year old behind the wheel of a car or like we see in dogs, they are impetuous with no discernment – so this is where “NO” must come in (woe to the child who was never disciplined, for their misaligned self-expectation and "obligations" that society – as an extension of their parents – they have, will always make them feel unloved – as in their perception love equates with getting anything!) once we learn we are not in control, we allow ourselves to be led – so now our car is hooked up to a tow-truck – and wherever the adults tell us to go, we go – woe to the person who unhitches himself not