Love is the most important thing and if love is seeing yourself in another and if in order to love another, you must love yourself, then the number one thing is to love yourself, which is why G-d made it that in the beginning we are given much love – and all the abuse or shame we have ever received has not come from the side of light – though to be fair we also must not have arrogance, so when we can appreciate that the side of darkness, like the thorn that tears at the delicate petal was just to release its aroma, allowing that the negative side within should decay, so the pure Divinity should be able to Express