It’s astounding how simple it is to have a great marriage, you see John Gray was interviewed and they asked him "what do women want" and he answered "for their husbands to make them happy" and then they asked him "what do men want?" and he said "for their wives to be happy" so obviously there’s a lack of communication between men and women as to what would make the wife happy and the reason for this lack of communication is that whenever you have a dynamic of, as Kabbalah says, a giver or receiver, call it a boss / employee, the employee has needs, but does not wish to be rejected, and therefore often will not request, and therefore in fact resentment might build; so if every morning every husband asked his wife, what would make her happy, the world would be ecstatic