It really is so simple, amazing how stupid I must be – well I guess I’m in good company…. (you excluded of-course: ) there was in fact an Oxford professor, who wrote a book called "And" (in other words, we have a tendency to think "or" but it’s really about "and"…) So as we know from Kabbalah, that three primary paradigms, directions, goals, there are – the first is love (unconditional – just as you wish for others to love you – no matter your fualts – heck we all have faults….) the second is streantgh – we must stand for our convictions (occasionally we may need to defend against evil, but most importantly, we must self-discipline to do light) and most importantly the Tower, the Crown, the Gps: Listen to God