It is true, no one has a right to shame you – it is also true, if you get angry, you give them what they want – it is also true, that you can realize as Josef did, that while it is true another had no right to hurt you in any way, shape or form, but in truth, as God is in charge of everything and God only does kindness, there must be a great kindness that will occur from your great pain and in fact the greater the pain, the greater the benefit (eventually) will be!