It is only possible to live in one of the four primary States: the first which is based on others providing your needs, so like a child, or perhaps someone who has a lucky card, they live in a fantasy, which actually is a good start to life – so you can have a positive attitude – the second is when you live in a society of jerks, so you have to defend yourself, so the primary reality is seeing people as evil, though there is a benefit to this in that you develop your own sense of right and wrong – ultimately the best case scenario is you go through these two primary States, somewhere in childhood and teenage years – and then you develop, through seeking the truth