In life we can either be subconsciously hence consciously (though we may not be aware) fixated on how to fulfill my desires; how to prevent my pain/shame; but eventually we need to overcome the former by realizing (as anyone with any common-sense and experience knows) my desires are ridiculous in any event (certainly relative to what G-d could conceive is best) and there is no reason to fear, for everything that occurs is a blessing (though sometimes in disguise, and the greater the disguise, the greater the future blessing)