In life we are always either totally sweet – like a little child whose world is so perfect (as they are given everything physical, including love etc.) that they just see a perfect world – so the natural innate love in the soul is what shines (which is why we find children so adorable – when they are sweet) – or the exact opposite, sour – Sour is when we have been violated and we fear it in the future, so not only are we perhaps mad as a bull, but we are also neurotic (though we don’t reveal our weakness to others and also to ourselves – but the very fact you fear, means you have a phobia (fear/neurosis- Nothing to be ashamed of, this is how we are hardwired for safety) Then to make things worse we become jealous of those who are sweet (this is why the direction of fear based jealousy, actually is not towards bad people, but toward the sweet – currently Americans, Jews etc. for jealousy is the ego’s belief that it is isn’t fair! (which is the basis of any anger, but in this case, that another who isn’t more deserving, is more fortunate – though our mind rationalizes evil by showing us why the evil in the other, is worth "preventing," and it is our duty to reprove them – so criticism is a form of abuse (the proof is, someone who is happy is not critical, and their mind doesn’t show them what is "critical") And finally there is maturity, where we take responsibility (for the previous two realities are reactive – we simultaneously love from a choice (because it is what is right) and are capable of not being angry; but seeing evil and either ignoring it (when it is personal, in other words malicious shaming) or ideally standing up to it (when it is harmful)