Imagine a pot of water – is it hot? – you see, in order for a relationship- the soup – to be warm, – not only must the man (for in all relationships there is the giver and receiver – both desire it, but one being more dominant, the other is more reticent – the same goes say in a boss / employee – parent / child, teacher / student, rabbi / congregant) so not only must you light the flame, you must keep the flame