if you do this your misery will turn to acceptance, your acceptance will turn to you humility, your humility will create happiness, and your happiness will create friendship, your friendship will create joy, and your joy is a really worthwhile investment… and there are only three things…. only three that every human being must realize, the first is you are not the person you think you are – you are literally God! for everything is energy, even matter; your physical body made up of atoms is also God – in fact your body is shaped as the name of God – the head like a Yud – torso and legs like a Vov – the five fingers and five toes like the two Hays – for Hay is twice in the name of God – so again I am not who I think I am… I am literally… because my soul is energy… energy comes from God… my body is energy, energy comes from God… why do I think I am something different…? Because the most beautiful thing that exists is not something that is better than another… in fact that’s the ugliest thing that exists… the most beautiful thing, like Beauty itself – is the combination of different colors – complementing !, so each and every person in fact, animal, tree, rock, is unique… we complement one another… and last but not least if we get this through our thick skulls, that marriage is the ultimate joy : ) and as I listen to a lecture on loneliness, that studies show that these people live happier and live longer!