If you are not in charge of your instincts, your instincts are in charge of you! – so decide, do you want to direct your life, namely, your decision of what is good and compassionate to be your driving direction, or do you want your instincts for pleasure and fears of pain or shame to manipulate your mind and speech and actions, hence never expressing your true self, true goodness, true aspirations for yourself and humanity as perhaps the majority of people in all of human history have tragically, mistakenly, done.