If we had to boil down eternity, from beginning of time to the end of time, in which we are in the middle it is a simple equation – it is the equation of congruency – to what extent does your behavior, your speech and even your conscious thoughts reflect how you believe you (and, others should be) – we obviously can never expect from someone more than they expect from themselves – in fact the Baal Shem Tov says, when God judges us, he only matches these two realities – of-course when we judge ourselves likewise