I just learned from the Alter Rebbe something extraordinary – when we look at someone, there is an embarrassment to not do something which in their eyes is inappropriate… – and the lesson I deduce… – is make sure you are looking only at the good (for if you look at movies or worse etc., what happens is – as the largest Govt. study into negative images proves – a loss of shame (in fact, the desire to emulate… – this is the secret how Jews – having great role-models (and seeing themselves as distinct) were always on such a high)