I finally figured out life interpersonally – the truth is, it is mentioned in psychology (I don’t remember who) our problem is not being able to discern between those who love us and those who use us – you see a person with love will never ever abuse you – in other words, anyone who ever has abused you, they never ever loved (though it is possible for a person to begin being loving but when we become defensive we shut our hearts down, so then we do not feel emotions, so psychopathically pathologically we simply pretend meanwhile all our interactions, unless motivated by ideals (religion/God etc.) are purely self-serving