I don’t mean to break anyone’s heart but there is a simple rule, in fact in his book "the vanishing Jew" Alan Dershowitz often speaks to secular Jewish crowds who wanted their kids to marry Jewish – he said, "I have an absolute guarantee…" – well everyone was so excited – "send your kids to Yeshivah." – you see, you can’t have your cake – want you kid to be a secular star and eat it – have Jewish progeny