I don’t know why this never dawned on miwa – however it is both fundamental and all encompassing – one of the primary Kabbalistic ideas is the triad of Chessed- kindness, Gevurah-judging and Tifferes balance- by nature we abhore expending useless energy – as the brain is a glucose hog ( using 25% for thinking therefore to conserve energy we don’t, hence what we do is live under illusions) but God uses these three mechanisms, for first comes love – which creates the desire to create – then comes judging which is about balancing one’s desire to give with what will be beneficial and that is the Tifferes