Have you ever tried a hot pepper? – well I remember the transition – from heat to pleasure, from hate to love – you see, naturally a hot pepper burns us – however our brain processes endorphines to counter the effect of the pain – so in effect, no one eats a hot pepper for its taste, rather for its feeling – as the brain has kicked in this response, it will always do the same, the same holds true in u humans – our brain contains responses – when we are in the state of security which obviously means we were taken care of, our natural reaction is love – we will be attracted to adults who we perceive as beneficial, we will be attracted to peers, as we are social creatures; girls are naturally attracted due to a mothering instinct to children – however and this is very important – just as the brain can be trained to love, it can also be trained to hate, this is when the inverse happens, namely, instead of receiving security we receive anxiety – when we need to protect ourselves from anything or anyone this causes us to biologically react with fear – our amygdila nuclei region prevents rational processing and we become like a deer trapped in the headlights, pulsating with anxiety – this anxiety does not feel good, hence the correlation of fear is also hate – no better example to this then mosquitoes – you see, I have nothing against flies – but mosquitoes, I actually enjoy killing them (now far be if from me to enjoy killing, in fact I prefer to let a spider out and I am loath even to kill a cockroach – but mosquitoes, well, they just get under my skin) So the same stimuli that causes me to fear and hate hence enjoy the pleasure of killing (revenge) mosquitoes, can happen in humans – when we live in toxic communities, when we feel the need to defend our integrity, when we are not unconditionally accepted (and dare I say, very very few countries have produced civilizations in which people are unconditionally accepted, as far as I can see, only the Chassidic community and white America (or any group in America that has bought into the American tolerance ideal) actually allows individuals, the freedom of individuality