From instinctual love to real love

We are born loving, but ironically, love based on instincts are false; for it is like a dog’s love, filled with emotion, but lacking discernment; True love is not that WE FEEL GOOD to love, but we CHOOSE TO LOVE EVEN IF IT DOESN’T! and to get to that stage, we must experience a loss of our original love through wanton aggression and abuse, and after disassociating from the object of our love out of fear and hate, we then learn a new paradigm, a love for God and a trust, and in our new security, we are freed from our fear and anger, and hence ready to love on God’s terms: an unconditional love which is beyond how it makes US FEEL and is solely focused on loves objective, namely goodness and kindness!!