From a letter written to a friend which may help you
By zevi770 · September 23, 2012
The bottom line, given the restrictions of possibilities that unfortunately I see, for ideally I believe it would benefit you guys to learn together as well as do mediation to resolve all issues which is good advice for ALL couples is – you should try to see her and your life with her for the blessing that it is, for in seeing the positive you will love her and your life with her.