Every secret – Kabbalah that is a perfect soul map describes three states – In the state of love which is natural when there is security, we are both, well, loving, but also non-aware – in the state of fear, we are highly aware, but obviously anxious, now this likewise creates a state of jealous hate (as we become jealous of those who are loving, hence terrorism, bullying; mechanisms to add to anothers anxiety, so they join the misery) finally the truth is that all of life is simply continuous life lessons