Each and every one of us have five constant missions: the first is to not be a jerk, second is 2 not be an a******, the third is to be kind, the 4th is to understand, that relative to God’s understanding, all human understanding is zero, hence if we wish to have any understanding, what we need to do is follow His advice, which generally speaking is in the Torah, specifically speaking the Rebbe says everyone has to have a Mashpia, spiritual personal mentor / Chassidic Rabbi / Rebbetzin, advisor, or one can ask Hashem directly, and the first thought that comes to mind, is His reply, and last but not least, is, don’t blame others for your stupidity