By sublimating your ego to another you don’t make them happy, you increase their suffering – this we see clearly in toddlers who develop a full blown grandiosity reality/delusion by the time they are two, which is why they throw tantrums when they don’t get their way; so if someone continues to spoil the child, the child can ever be happy for desire is like an instant glue trap, everything you see, if you expect you should be able to get it, which is impossible, you will feel let down (in fact, the major reason God made us go to sleep and why we are tired by the end of the day and refreshed in the morning, is because during a dream we have wish-fulfillment, so our subconscious desire focuses on something and then in the dream we get it, but because imagination and reality are the same on an experiential level hence we feel better.)