Believe it or not, as our sages state, in the direction man seeks, God helps him find; we all actually find what we are looking for; for example, the cynical person will always find what to be cynical about; the person on a campaign for anything, will always find justifications for their campaign (hence republicans and democrats following their “convictions”) so it seems to me, the most important question to ask ourselves, should not be – can I find what I am looking for? – but, what should a wise person be looking for in the first place?! – and the answer that I realized for myself is, that we should be looking to do, what is right – for then we will!!