Because the less experienced we are in life, the more idealistic and starry-eyed, the more we seek affection- and we are very sweet, but very naive – and because the more experienced, perhaps the more we seek protection, and one of the ways we do this, by categorizing people into some kind of of negative labels – so we can feel both psychologically Justified, and emotionally protected, by keeping our distance – so the solution to life is Fall in love with God, and believe that His direction is what it’s good for all people, no matter the course