At all times there are three possibilities – we are following what we are attracted (love) we are fearing (protecting ourselves – suffice it to say, the largest study into mental health, a 500,000,000 European study found fear, the basis of EVERY MENTAL DISTURBANCE – FOR FEAR LIKE LOVE SETS UP A DESIRE -A PHOBIA OR NEUROSIS AND JUST AS IN LOVE WE ARE INSANE (IRRATIONALLY ADDICTED, SO TO IN FEAR) HENCE THERE IS BUT A SINGLE THIRD WAY – FEAR NOTHING OR ANYONE BUT GOD AND SERVE NOTHING AND ONE – INCLUDING IF NOT ESPECIALLY YOURSELF – BUT GOD