all problems boil down to imbalance; for example, if we think too highly of ourselves, like a ranting toddler, or some current politicians, we expect the world; however, if we think to low of ourselves, like a depressed person, not only do we lack the desire to serve ourselves, we may God-forbid commit suicide – the only way to balance ourselves, is what Kabbalah teaches (and there are many many different meditations used, but here is the one I think is easiest) On one hand be proud of all your good! (and if God-forbid you have been shamed and don’t see yourself as good, know that there are hundreds of millions, if not billions of people who would never shame you, as they having positive self-esteem, think the world of you; for in truth, God made the whole world for each and everyone of us; for unlike say a company that mass produces; as you can tell: you are unique, one of kind, priceless, eternal and infinitely valuable!) but simultaneously remember all the bad you have done (for this way you balance)