All of people fall into one of three possibilities 1. Having our needs met we are considering both what is meaningful and self serving 2. Lacking our needs, we are survivalistic 3. Having our needs met, but suffering from shame, hence anger ( at the abuser) fear ( for as shame is never about something wrong someone did, rather it was someone’s jealousy, hence as the person’s brain finds no direct cause, it becomes hyperviligint in order to prepare for any future attacks) this then creates jealousy of those who are calm ( and jealousy as any emotion, creates the rationalizations justifying shaming)