All of our issues really relate to a dual problem. The first is we imagine grandeur and grandiosity as grand, which creates an attraction. And then the same narcissism which effectively was a cover – for when we are feeling low our ego creates illusions of greatness to feel better a and then because such individuals often are actually internally feeling low and hence externally shame others; and if we accept their shame as genuine, then both the attraction as well as the shame have become an issue.