All of my life experience has taught me a number of things, number one, we exist only within our own perception, for the truth is, all is God; but that was God’s way of giving “birth” to us – our happiness comes first and foremost from being proud of ourselves, which comes from selfless giving – and our misery comes from haughtiness (for the humble person feels grateful for all that s/he has, while the not grateful person, allows all that s/he has to contribute to their personal sense of value, and hence subconsciously we resent, people of such import not being capable of achieving any, or many, or all of our wishes.)