All of life is summed up in this simple Kabbalistic reality – we begin life hopefully in the state of chessed – “everything is good” hence we don’t have a normal understanding, yet we have developed a love, which is positive; we then experience hardships, which as we now fear further abuse, we become cynical, dissociative, and angry out of jealousy of the tranquility of others, hence become cruel (though our cruelty is rationalized as “the other person deserves it due to their great evil” – which explains all viciousness, malice, tyranny and simply humiliating others in our world) however we then hopefully develop into reality namely understanding: security comes from God, and our life is a duty to help others!