All of Kabbalah boils down to the three possible relationship positions – the first is complete naivete (children, liberals who are not radicals; for many are actually haters using liberalism; we see in many in the lbgt community who are blatant anti-semites, as we see many other "peace-loving" NGOs) The second is the exact opposite, namely judgmental – in this scenario (as opposed to the first where the heart was subjected to love) the heart was subjected to hate – hence to protect the heart from future abuse the person becomes paranoid – in this state of constant anxiety which drains the life (a person’s entire biological system becomes altered) though one may tend toward perfectionism, underlying thier emotional experience is dread; this then gives rise to jealousy (an instinct) Jealousy then harps on anyone who is not miserable (this is the secret to why there are bullies, anti-semites, and maliciousness, for from a rational standpoint one should love, however when one is suffering there is no place for love, and as a result of their excruciating pain they begin to resent, hate and try to cuase suffering, even to those they love (In fact we see this empirically that when women have their time, the same wife who will give her life for her husband now tears him… preferably to shreds) Finally there is the truth – you want it… You asked!! The truth is you and I don’t really exist – We are but a false perception (as Einstein says "Reality is an illusion albeit a very persistent one") of our own existence – Based on this perception of self we hence seek that which makes us happy, we fear that which is painful/shameful to us (for as by nature we are social, we fear shame which presupposes we will not be communal, which is why people aqueous to the most stupid and even savage societal norms)