a psychologist who studied stress his whole life said that we are stressed either through things or from people, and to overcome people stress I recommend that all stress is basically sort of subconscious stress – it’s post-traumatic stress, so remember that whereas before, you being naive, trusted – for trauma is when the brains functioning, namely beliefs, become ripped apart by events in a sudden and hence traumatic way – necessitating a rebuilding and coming back to a sense of safety – But now, as you are experienced, and you are not naive, therefore, instead of having what Freud described as "preparation anxiety" you can understand, that if that same event were to occur to you now, now that you have the skill sets to recognize maliciousness, you obviously will either ignore it, or fight it, but you won’t be traumatized