A Marital Mediation Technique – as the Rebbe teaches, the goal or the technique of a marriage is in compromise – something we all need to learn – so here is a Marital Mediation technique from this new emerging field – firstly there are three different forms of communication: thoughts (thinking positively or God-forbid negatively, which produce emotions, and on many levels can be sensed, especially by women from men) speech, but most importantly, what today has afforded us the ability, is the written word – now the written word, like thought is extraordinarily potent – it can be used to destroy or build, as the famous adage “The pen is stronger than the sword” – so a new technique from marital mediation is as follows, obviously only think positively (and if you see any negative, harsh, judgmental thoughts about your spouse, simply ignore it and even better replace it with a positive) obviously only speak positively, however there is a need for practical communication, dealing with real life issues and here is the brilliant advice – use e-mail – instead of accusing (“you should of etc.”) only use requests – “can you etc.” – and remember, the magic number! you (as your spouse) are only entitled to 50% of your requests