We cannot nor should ever control another (though we should inspire…) and we must always and should never not) control ourselves
So everything must be used for God, what can we learn from this absolute insanity of people deciding what their identity is… that we too can decide beyond a shadow of a doubt as the Rebbe teaches us “my identity is, I am a creation of the Creator, here to serve exclusively His will”
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