Hi my name is Rabbi Wineberg – I have a website called Kabbalwisdom, my book Kabbalah Love teaching people how to get out of fear and into true love has thank God been televised in a mini-series in South Africa, watched by millions – Let’s talk about love… A Guide

What is love?

Love is a force.

If we really had to boil down love, we could say there are two types:

There is attraction which is because there is something that will be pleasurable to me.

The second is there is a sense of reverence, respect; so it’s more like being impressed; and creates almost a humility – so it’s an attraction to someone you care for.

As you can see, though they are both love – attraction – the difference is one is selfish, the other is selfless.

Now let’s talk about intimacy – intercourse.

Everything God made, He made that it can be used in a good or bad way – let’s use an example from a knife, you could use it to eat or God-forbid kill – one gives life, the other destroys.

The same is with intimacy.

When we follow the guidelines set out by our Creator which is a. that Jewish people should marry Jews and bring Jewish children and raise them Jewishly into the world, then because we are focused on a higher mission, this is intimacy that unites.

On the flipside there is a natural instinct in man to denigrate.

If we (and this happens subconsciously, but is the little high that intercourse brings, is about ‘power’ then of course, for one person to be “more powerful” that means another is being shamed: (

It is a mistake for a man to think that sleeping with a woman callously / causally is o.k.

It is actually a form of rape

For women are long term planners

The only reason they agree – they are thinking that this will one day lead to children, love, and family.

So to sleep with a woman is literally a rape of her heart, her trust.

A man is very very important – especially to a woman and children.

Men provide a sense of love, a sense of safety, a sense of honor.

So once again, the question we have to ask ourselves is do we want to be righteous – and this of course includes girls/women, for they have an equal responsibility not to be the vehicle that leads men to sin, (and trust me, as every single study shows, sleeping with a man, not only doesn’t lead to commitment it makes you seem cheap – men are conquerors, they respect those who respect themselves.)

So have absolute clarity that you will only live with a (if Jewish) Jewish male, and intimacy – even touch should only come after marriage – otherwise as studies show you will break your heart, again : ( and again : ( and again : (


The ten things that we really need

We all know that Maslow made a list of things we need

As he was pretty bright guy lets start

1. Physiological needs – these are biological requirements for human survival, e.g. air, food, drink, shelter, clothing, warmth, sleep.

If these needs are not satisfied the human body cannot function optimally. Maslow considered physiological needs the most important as all the other needs become secondary until these needs are met.

2. Safety needs – Once an individual’s physiological needs are satisfied, the needs for security and safety become salient. People want to experience order, predictability and control in their lives. These needs can be fulfilled by the family and society (e.g. police, schools, business and medical care).

For example, emotional security, financial security (e.g. employment, social welfare), law and order, freedom from fear, social stability, property, health and wellbeing (e.g. safety against accidents and injury).

3. Love and belongingness needs – after physiological and safety needs have been fulfilled, the third level of human needs is social and involves feelings of belongingness. The need for interpersonal relationships motivates behavior

Examples include friendship, intimacy, trust, and acceptance, receiving and giving affection and love. Affiliating, being part of a group (family, friends, work).

4. Esteem needs are the fourth level in Maslow’s hierarchy – which Maslow classified into two categories: (i) esteem for oneself (dignity, achievement, mastery, independence) and (ii) the desire for reputation or respect from others (e.g., status, prestige).

Maslow indicated that the need for respect or reputation is most important for children and adolescents and precedes real self-esteem or dignity.

5. Self-actualization needs are the highest level in Maslow’s hierarchy, and refer to the realization of a person’s potential, self-fulfillment, seeking personal growth.
Maslow (1943) describes this level as the desire to accomplish everything that one can, to become the most that one can be.

As research developed another 2 (3) needs were identified – 1. Is the relationship to G-d

We all innately need G-d – and in fact parts of your brain light up in spirituality.

In addition being an intellect being, we have curiosity – we certainly appreciate scientific advances.

And perhaps, though the former may be more male orientated and the latter more female (though often people may have a predilection for one or the other or both) a deep appreciation of nature, scenery, aesthetics, arts etc.