If you understand that we actually literally do not exist – we are (though on soul level (but not a conscious level) we always existed…) firstly a narcissist (as the Previous Rebbe said, “there is no greater egoist than a little baby” – for ego is the result of assuming that you are powerful, and the baby cries and get its way) then (hopefully) this narcissism is broken (this is the tantrum throwing… and realizing that you are just a kid) this allows for humility, humility allows for learning, and then we must infinitely grow