The first all-encompassing truth that truly matters is the Kabbalistic doctrine that everything (that’s everything) that God made/makes (that’s everything! (truly everything!) operates in three steps – the first step is: God has a vision (for example, in an overarching principle: God’s vision was the messianic world,) then there are mechanisms (so to get to the messianic world, first there had to be our world, there had to be people, there had to be ego, there had to be humility, there had to be the giving of the Torah, there had to be billions of gentiles – Jews had to be a minority (this gives free choice) they had to freely do all the Mitzvos) the result (which brings about the reward, the messianic era.) As God is infinite hence our growth is; each and everything that we go through – unbeknown to us (for we are in the mechanism) is really growth (the result is the beginning, which causes the middle.)
The next truth that really matters is that, as opposed to all religions that fundamentally see a dichotomy between our reality and God, this reality is exactly what God wants – in everything God made, there is the good / bad (for example intimacy – money – recognition (for if one is a role model…)
The next all-encompassing truth that really matters is the principle of Ratzu / vshuv – for a human being to, both be motivated and disciplined (normal, healthy and balanced,) we need to engage in two (rotating between, for each increases the next/other) dichotomies – the first is the spiritual high (we get this every morning in Davening (prayer,) on Shabbos, (hopefully in childhood, steeped in Torah) during the first month (replete with holidays,) then we have “return,” our “Mundane (though most important! – for only in the minutia do we give, help… hence create love / unity,) tasks – chores – goals (many are, that get mired in the mundane – many are, those who try escapism (in its many many many various forms, be it buddhism, (nirvana) entertainment – pride – drugs etc.)
The next all-encompassing important truth is the need to have both hope and depression – we induce hope by realizing that God has changed the world (we lived in a catastrophe – if you look at studies, a person today lives twice as long, in far better health, freedom education – and not to mention the incredible technological advances, not to mention, the infinite spiritual wisdom through Chassidus! – we live compared to before, in heaven!! – Dr. Goldberg a spiritual and special Jew, was a Doctor with the Russian army – he liberated some of the concentration camps – he told me that he thought Judaism had died (as it appeared to him both in Russia and Europe dead – and of-course communism was an iron curtain on what was happening outside – when I told him, the Rebbe said, “Moshiach is here,” he told me – after Perestroika, he came to Cleveland and he saw a Jew with a Tallis, so he followed him, and the person came into a Shul, he looked around and didn’t see police – “I know Moshiach is here!” says the good Doctor.) On the flipside, getting too exuberant (like in manic – or childhood) makes one irrational, so we must balance this high with a low (think of all the sadness (so you want your emotional state to be 80% joyful).
Every morning, the first thought of the day sets the tone – this tradition goes all the way back to Abraham (interestingly, the Torah tells us that Abraham sent his sons to the east – and Rashi (the most famous commentator explains “with false names of G-d,” and the mysticism of the east harkens back.) When you wake up in the morning you should sit on your bed and place your hands – palm against palm, incline your head and say to G-d that you are grateful, that though you went to sleep tired, you are now refreshed – furthermore it helps to think of all our blessings, furthermore, you should now imagine that you are a soldier in God’s spiritual army.
Of the 613 Divine instructions (Mitzvos) there are two that are the fundamentals – our heart is like a radar – it seeks – what it seeks it conveys (so, we think about what we want.) Our goal is to have unconditional love, as God says, “Love another as you love yourself,” which means: Just as you don’t judge yourself (so even if you do something wrong, it doesn’t mean you are unworthy) so must you never judge another. (Judgment is actually a malicious act, usually based in jealous hate – for when we have been judged, we become jealous, this is the cause of bullying, antisemitism, anti-west etc.) On the flipside, though there are others that are malicious, you must never be angry – though G-d will punish others for being evil, whatever comes to you was ultimately a Divine gift – so you can’t hate.
The balance between Ego and Selflessness – On one hand we must have an ego – an irrational selfishness (in fact depression is when one hates themselves – or is angry at themselves – so if you don’t love someone, you don’t care about them; which is why a depressed person loses their appetite, sexual drive, all drives; for love causes us to wish to fulfil the wishes of whom we love;) on the other side, as is obvious, if all you care about is yourself (particularly if you have no conscience…) you have become a psychopath – this is why, the only, THE ONLY! way for a human being to be moral (and if nothing else, secularism proves this, for Germany was a secular culture, and created a “scientific theory” (not unlike many of the stupid “progressive ideas today” ) that rationalized wholesale scientific mass murder : ( ! – for the mind that is run by the desires, to quote Margaret Thatcher, “A person without religion, is a slave to their passions,” However there are two steps to religion – first and foremost, the only religion that is proven (this is based on a study of 150 religions – in other words, it’s not a single person, such as in the case of Islam, where ONE PERSON said that an angel appeared to him (never did anything to prove this…) and through primarily manslaughter and fear of death, convinced 1.4 billion followers / their descendants…. – the only religion that was witnessed by an entire nation was the Jewish people / religion – and in this Bible (revered by over 2,000,0000! people, there are two pathways, there are the 613 Commandments for the Jewish people, and the Seven Noahide for the Gentiles (“Do not worship idols,” “Do not curse God,” “Do not murder,” “Do not steal,” “Do not commit immoral sexual perversions” (such as adultery, incest, homosexuality.) “Do not eat from a living animal” (effectively, be compassionate.) “Create a justice system,” as well as goodness and kindness (“Do the good you believe you should.”) Though following the only witnessed religion of God is a must – here too, ego / arrogance can creep in – arrogance is an instinct (“look how good I / we are…”: ) to counter this, one must develop the highest relationship – namely, that which understands that God speaks to us all the time! (One of the ways, through the events we encounter – so though on one hand everything seems natural (see #1) everything has a meaningful message, if you care to find it…. – when we realize that the journey of goodness is infinite! how can we be arrogant? – So on one hand, we are soldiers of God, yet the mission is infinite.
Torah study – for thousand of years, millions of Jews, from morning to evening, from birth to death, poured over the countless Torah books – for to not know is to be ignorant, to be rendered a fool – as one person who asked me a question told me, “I am not a fool, only ignorant;” the fool is the one who ignores the Creator – much like if I created a video game – and you are in it, and playing it…. and I offer you advice… – Furthermore, not only to know what to do, is Torah critical, but as our sages teach: 3 hours every morning, God Himself studies Torah – I try to do that – I’ll tell you why – in a world in which the media (another critical point!) induces depression and anxiety : ( : ( : ( – a world in which so many are so lost : ( – I want to be happy! : ) : ) : ) – When we study Torah, God Himself is teaching us – this is why, though objectively Jews are from the highest intelligent people (which relative to G-d, is all unintelligence in any event) nonetheless, we manage to, week after week, year after year, century after century, millennia after millennia, read every single week the same book! – Don’t you think the most intelligence could already understand?? – But a book in which the infinite Creator infinitely updates – gives you every new insight, not only is important for moral behavior (to know truth, right from wrong,) but also is ever exciting, fresh, rejuvenating, re-jew-venating! – If you need some elixir of life, go to Chabad.org
You know the true difference between successful and unsuccessful people…. – it has zero to do with intelligence, it has everything to do with self-discipline – we can either be too undisciplined (this often happens in prosperous countries,) we can be too rigid (this happens in fear based societies – this seems to be the case in Russia, Germany, Asian countries – a rigidness which is indictive of not wishing for someone to shame – Japan in fact, has clinically proven, its own social anxiety, as it’s all about pride/shame,) Then there is the healthy balance see #2 – In other words, a person must combine both creativity (which comes from the right brain which functions in safety) and discipline, which comes from the left brain (based on logic and some anxiety…) Ultimately, the way to discipline ourselves, and we are the only Creature of God that has free choice, (animals cannot change,) is, (this is because we have a prefrontal lobes, called executive functioning) is that we simply must tell ourselves what to do – like a horse… the more the rider tells it what to do and is firm (if you need to get the process started, you can shout at yourself!…) the sooner and easier self-discipline gets,) Again the goal is not to be rigid, just, when you think you need to do something, to do.
Last but not least, to understand that this universe is the universe of interconnection – before our universe (spiritual) there was a previous one – in the previous universe (Tohu) things were independent – as all sought its own dominance, the world collapsed (this formed the egoism inherent in everything in our universe) however in our universe (those who are normal, intelligent and compassionate) realize that success is not independence, rather interdependence – for interdependence to work, we must allow each person their gift – every person is born with unique gifts – it is our task in this word to not only use our talents for the sake of bettering everyone’s life (including our own – for we too matter) but to also receive – in this way we understand (and nowhere is this interdependence more embracing than in husband / wife, parent / child, boss / employee, official / citizen etc.) that we are all both givers and receivers – we are all an instrument in God’s symphony.