The deepest darkest truth is the reason abused people become abusers, as studies show, is quite simple, as the founder of the Bible of Jewish mysticism the Alter Rebbe says, there are two emotions that govern Our Lives: namely the emotion of fear, which is the desire for something bad not to happen, and the emotion of love, which is the desire for something positive or pleasurable to happen; now the very essence of abuse = just jealousy, for there’s no other reason why I would say hurt someone else; so the person whose getting hurt doesn’t want to get hurt, and he realizes that if he becomes evil then the person whose hurting him will stop (though of-course an evil person will only do what is temporarily advantagous – in other words, as we see emperically, every Peace deal we make with Arabs, is only for them to rearm)