Daily Archives: July 25, 2017

You see, we all know the importance of self-esteem – but psychology has the solution wrong – for even if I feel really good about myself today – unless I do something good tomorrow, I will feel pretty stupid, meaningless; hence what God, the Rebbe, Judiasm tells us is DO; for when you do good, so you

It has taken me a lifetime to learn this and I am giving it to you for free : ) – you see, generally speaking there are five possible people – there is the person (like most Americans) who due to the internal security (which includes psychological…. BIG THING! as Americans respect individuality, hence people are not shamed) having an internal feeling of safety, therefore they basically are on one hand idealistic (ready to give their lives for causes, as we see American soldiers in world war 1 and 2, and even recent stupid wars) yet also highly naive (ignorant of the real world, of the next personalty….) for when our society causes us to go into adrenaline mode – fight or flight, and as you cannot ignore people, hence you develop a narcissism – this narcissism acts as a shield to show people – “I am so tough!” (they say with deer that before a lion will begin to chase it, it does a little dance, as if to say, “look I can even dance;” so we create a “don’t mess with me, as I am so tough….” persona) this narcissism really hides anxiety (now as anxiety feels rotten – like someone constantly having a mosquito buzzing in our ear, and as by nature we become jealous, hence it also causes us to become malicious (bullying etc. and in a group, terrorism, radicals etc. – this desire is to cause others to feel fear, through random acts of violence – in this way, the hope is, that they too will feel fear – though this is sick, it is obviously human nature – now ironically no one is all bad – the same person who is a bully, may also be very generous – ironically, to some extent the bully may even be more kind! for as fear creates focus, they may a. be more aware of suffering and b. more prone to assist) c. a person God-forbid may become depressed (this is where we lose pride – often through feeling shame – now this can happen in of two ways, either someone else shames us or we are self-shamed – feel we have done something inappropriate – now we know that the Yetzer Hara primarily uses shame – for a person lacking enthusiasm easily will fall) Then there is the genuine problem of developing a delusion of VIP (the problem with this, is it eliminates our innate compassion, for much as you feel no compassion on a mosquito, you feel no compassion on those you feel are low) but finally there is the truth – you are infinite – you are a literal part of God – God placed a spark of himself in your body – the purpose was to achieve something even God cannot achieve 1. growth (for perfection cannot become more prefect but imperfection can always) 2. practical kindness (for there must be those upon whom to have compassion) 3. Unity (for unity requires many)

How is someone born from love, into love, end up like isis, nazis, or even simply mean? – you see, we are like a two story home – but every two story home, has three stories – for underneath every home, the thing that keeps it standing, is a firm hard foundation – likewise, behind every thought, speech and action lies our ego – without the irrational self-love there is no desire (which is why a depressed person – which is someone who hates themselves, loses their desire!) the problem with desiring your desires, is that it is irrational; hence, as long as things are good, secure, kind, loving, there is no reason not to be likewise – however beyond reaction (which can also cause us to feel jealous, hence malicious / mean) is the MIND – the one thing that can make us understand, that unless we go beyond our irrational ego, we are its miserable slave

someone who uses his brain, doesn’t have one

If you have to pretend – there is no one worth pretending for

When we are young – we believe we are the center – as we throw our tantrums and don’t get our way (hopefully;) we realize we are not! – but then we think the big people must be… – as Freud says, our fondest wish is to be big (so we can also be the center…) but if we have any brain cells, we realize, the world isn’t centered – every one of us must take personal responsibility