There are three truths: whoever loves doesn’t criticize, hence whoever criticized/s never/doesn’t love; rather filled with an inner shame and hidden rage and an outer fear ( of more criticism hence perfectionism) hence becoming jealous of those who are self-assured, their minds develop rationalizations / justifications which are in truth hallucinations of others evil
So I have this Divine relationship as most people, but having access to Jewish mysticism it helps – you see the greatest error we make with the Divine, is perhaps like a wife who marries a billionaire thinks, “I just won the lotto” however the Divine relationship is more like a dance – you may be led, but you must trot
When we get to heaven the first thing they ask us, “Did you conduct your affairs with integrity?” – of course, the first thing we do is lie – so as they have the NSA’s files, they show us every time we didn’t – well we say – “do you know how many times I got ripped off!” “Ah, so you were justified…”
There are three complete stories – those who love never shame – those who shame never love – but ultimately the psychological paradigm man must create, is neither complete acceptance, meaning as we see others as ourselves we completely accept them ( the democratic folly, as we see it leads to both an unbridled permissiveness as well as allows evil – for those who are jealous and hate use this freedom maliciously) conversely as is obvious, to live in fear / hate / judging is not only self, but society destroying, hence the only true path is as Kabbalah teaches a. You must submit to the Divine voice – the voice of the Torah – the voice of the prophet / Rebbe of your generation, and the voice of God
In order to draw down the infinite dimension of God, one’s service must go beyond one’s finite, namely, intellect; reaching the state of mesirus nefesh ( my dedication to God goes beyond self-interest).