There are realities that we can/not ignore – the first is the law of consequence – you see it is true that in this lifetime we are given freedom to choose between following a higher or lower reality – but every action causes a spiritual reaction – for example, our sages who had infinite intimate knowledge of heaven (whether through previous writings or prophecy – how, I am not sure) write that from any harsh word spoken one is judged – when we get to heaven, every negative be it evil word / gesture – any way, we made anyone feel less than… and conversely every time we were kind and made people feel better gets weighed