Respect it’s a funny thing
Freud writes how before marriage a man may respect but after cohabitation may not.
What is the Jewish view?
The fact is that Freud was a bit obsessed about this subject but he certainly had a lot of insight (I have read a lot of his works which is why I can comment on it.)
The bottom line is this, our sages teach us (not that I am the role model but hey if I figure something out, far be it from me to withhold it from you, who may be wiser than me in action etc.):
Honor – Respect – Revere Your Wives, In Order For G-d To Give You Respect and Honor Through Making You Wealthy etc.