Yes you!


You see you are not who you think you are!


Yes you!








You are like the center of the nuclear reactor, which contains three potentials, for constructive, destructive or shut down mode.


Constructive: when you ration your giving to express love that doesn’t smother but energies your beloved.


Destructive, when you focus on yourself and hence you give love conditionally (to meet your own needs) or if God forbid you are feeling down, you actually step on others (antisemites etc.) in order to temporarily feel a bit better about yourself.


Or perhaps even worse, you are depressed and you shut off.


You cannot trust anyone, even yourself, for the mind genuinely tells everyone not the truth but what their heart desires – just like your feet go to the fridge in reaction to your desire to take a drink, your mind – before you are even aware of it, already has convinced you that what you want to do is right – only the Lubavitcher Rebbe, whose soul was pure Divinity, as all Tzaddikim, lacking any taavois instinctual pleasure for himself, can be trusted; as to what is or isn’t true, good, just etc. etc.!!!


Unmasking the hidden monster



There is a book written by a Jewish psychiatrist Dr. Josef Berke which is called the Tyranny of Malice.


In other words, his entire book is about the tyranny of jealousy and he asserts that to ignore it, is to ignore the past, to misunderstand the present, and to endanger the future.


Jealousy lies at the heart of all evil.


The cause of the first murder – in fact the cause of mans downfall (for wasn’t the satans, through the snake, or embodied in it, causing man to sin through the snakes appeal “God desire not that you should eat from the tree of knowledge, lest you become like God.”)


Now the reason I call jealousy the monster within, is, because as our sages teach us, people are jealous over anything besides their student or child (for then it is themselves.)


But in a simple twist, we can understand the true cause of this monster and hence understand its remedy.


Life consists only of two basic elemental stages which man is in.




Fear / anger . hate


Being in love feels good which is why people tend to be in it


However what happens when a person gets resentful “it isn’t fair” etc. etc. then as Rabbenu Bechayah writes, a person cannot hold love and fear . hate in their hearts at the same time, so like a seesaw, either love is in the air or hate, anger, resentment is.


Now that wouldn’t be so terrible if not for the following fact.


Jealousy is the state in which man will descend into if s/he is not in a state of love.


Why does man not get jealous of his student or son?


Because he is his student or son!


So when we are in love and identify, see ourselves in others, we are not jealous of them.


Rather when we are in fear or anger or revenge mode, God forbid, it is then that we desire to destroy the happiness of he, who is in a state of love.


For example, the other day I was walking with my brother and someone said an antisemitic comment to us.


Looking at the persons pickup truck I was not surprised to see a battered up barely working truck.




You see a person whose life is good has no jealousy of another’s.


It is a person whose life is dismal (now this often refers not to the outside, rather a person’s self esteem etc. etc.) it is s/he who picks on another, trying to lower their happiness to temporary fill their own abysmal self-image with a temporary fix of grandeur.


The theory to begin all theories



The Rebbe, who by far was the wisest, most saintly man of our age and perhaps all ages says, that in every debate one must look at the center of it, to understand the rhetoric surrounding it.


For example, a person may say “I love you,” and really what they are saying is “there is something that I want from you.”


A person may say (as children often do) “I hate you” and really they are saying “there is something that I want from you.”


A country may make peace with the intention of war, and a country may make war with the intention of peace.


As the Baal Shem Tov teaches, that he who knows the secret behind things, knows everything.


So there are countless skins covering the essence, but if we go to the essence we will know the skins, while vice-versa one will not.


In the beginning God had a dream to create unity.


The easiest example we have of this, is perhaps of a female, male, relationship.


Most men know why they desire women, but cannot for the life of them fathom why women desire men.


As the Talmud teaches, that a feminine saying as a cause for marriage is quite simply, better to be in a relationship than alone.


The relationship, unity, itself, is the reason for the relationship.


As Rabbi Moss teaches, man was born as an individual hence a relationship is somewhat a superimposition on his individuality, while women come from man, hence are intrinsically (el ishah tshuckasech) relationship orientated.


If we understand this simple point, we will understand everything,