The reverse (Helsinki effect) of fear

 

 

We all know (or at least now you do) the Baal Shem Tov’s teaching to “Fear no one but have reverence for God and love everyone with all the fire of your heart and soul.”

 

O.k. I understand the necessity of love, but why not have fear?

 

Isn’t fear sometimes a good thing?

 

The answer is quite simple, yet very, very important!

 

The Helsinki syndrome speaks of when a hostage identifies not with his rescuer, but rather with his captor.

 

We often see this in children who are abused, siding with the abusive parent not the victim.

 

Why?

 

The answer (from a hundred cases studied by the FBI) is simple indeed.

 

You see the fact is that if a person feels insecure the primary motive is to find security.

 

Hence (in fact it is precisely those people whom in general felt insecure that become the Helsinki type of victims) the bottom line is that by not feeling completely secure, instead of staying away from someone who may be harmful, we actually become their victim.

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