The Entire Torah was given to bring peace to humanity
In other words us humans by nature are bound to get offended; The Torah is a guide to how to overcome our own worst enemy namely our pride and just be loving people
The Rebbe Writes
“I received some information about the relationship at home, but I do not know to what extent it reflects the actual situation. Hence I want to convey to you some thoughts in light of what the relationship should be according to Shulchan Aruch [The Code of Jewish Law] – the Jews practical guide in life. If the relationship is, indeed, in keeping with it, the purpose of this letter will be to strengthen and deepen it, as there is always room for improvement in all matters of goodness and holiness, Torah and Mitzvos [Biblical commandments.] On the other hand, if it is not quite what it should be, I trust that, since the Torah is surely a guiding light you will bring it up to the desired level, and you will do it with joy and gladness of heart.
The central aspect in the manner of conducting a home and family life is that it be based on the way of the Torah, whose ways are “ways of pleasantness, and all of its paths are peace.” If this rule applies to all activities of a Jew, even outside the home, how much more so does it apply within the home itself!
Of course, since G-d has created human beings with minds and feelings of their own and these are not uniform in all people, peace and harmony can be achieved only on the basis of “give and take” that is, meeting each other half way. For a husband and wife to make concessions to each other is not, and should not be considered a sacrifice, G-d forbid. On the contrary, this is what the Torah teaches and expects, for we are talking about concessions that do not involve compromise in regard to the fulfillment of Mitzvos [commandments], and both of you are of the same mind that the laws of the Shulchan Aruch must not be compromised.
Furthermore, to achieve true peace and harmony calls for making such concessions willing and graciously –not grudgingly, as if it were a sacrifice, as mentioned above, but in the realization that it is for the benefit of one’s self and one’s partner in life, and for one’s self perhaps even more, since it is made in fulfillment of G-d’s will. And if our Sages exhort every Jew to receive every person with a friendly face, certainly it applies to one’s wife or husband.
There are many sayings of our Sages, as well as those of our Rebbes, urging husband and wife always to discuss matters of mutual concern, and to give patient attention to the opinion of the other and then act in mutual agreement. It is also very desirable that they should have at least one regular study period in a section of Torah which is of interest to both, such as the weekly Torah portion, or a timely subject connected with a particular season or festival.
While the major obligation to study Torah is on men, it has been emphasized that women, too, have to fulfill the mitzvah [commandment] of Torah study in areas where they are directly involved, as explained in the laws of Torah study. All the more so in the present day and age when women have the possibility – hence obligation – to do their share of spreading Judaism no less than men.
It may sometimes seem difficult for the husband to take time out of his preoccupation to discuss mutual problems with his wife, or study Torah with her, but he should not look at it as a sacrifice. On the contrary he should do it eagerly in fulfillment of the most important Mitzvah – Sholom Bayis – Peace In The Home. And if any Mitzvah has to be carried out with joy, how much more so such a fundamental Mitzvah.
Finally, I would like to add that of the Mitzvah campaigns which have been emphasized in recent years, special attention has been focused on the mitzvah of Ahavas Yisroel [the love for fellow man,] which embraces everyone, even a stranger; how much more so a near and dear one.
I hope and pray that each of you will make every effort in the direction outlined above and will do so with real joy and gladness of heart, and may G-d grant that you should have true Nachas [joy] –which is Torah Nachas, from each other and jointly from your offspring, in happy circumstances materially and spiritually.”
In other words, as we mentioned there are three kinds of miracles, nature, miracles and the ultimate revelation of God that is not limited in both miraculous behavior nor natural behavior, the combination of God within nature.
Now the only real thing we can speak of in terms of the very essence of the physical world we live in, is ironically not its physical properties for space without time cannot exist (as Einstein confirmed that which Kabbalah spoke about thousands of years ago that space and time are interlinked) hence the truth is, reality is at the most simple level soul i.e. you and I, living entities that can perceive and understand (not excluding the souls of vegetation and animals that are lower life forms and certainly in terms of comprehension ability – have you ever seen an animal go to university?) but what is most unique is the space time dimension which in reality boils down to a time dimension and time boils down to past present and future; in other words you can have a life / soul in a timeless world where all of the worlds information, all of experiences are there or perhaps none of it is there, but what is unique in our dimension is we learn sequentially. Starting out in childhood knowing nothing about the space time planet we are born into and then we continually learn (in fact studies show that most of what we will ever learn was learnt by the age two – tastes sounds language etc.) and hence it all boils down to us sequentially learning grasping understanding more and more of G-d’s infinity which is beyond time and space but allowing us a glimpse.
The Junior Code of Jewish Law
Rising in the morning
1. One should be aware of the fact that G-d always stands near him and observes all his actions, for G-d fills the whole earth with His glory.
2. Therefore, one should be careful at all times to keep his behavior, affairs and speech at their very best, since he is in the presence of the Great King, the Almighty.
3. Similarly, upon awakening, one should consider the mercy of G-d, who graciously restores man’s invigorated soul to him each morning, so that he may worship G-d anew.
4. To express this gratitude, one should say, even before getting out of bed, the following prayer called Modeh-Ani
“I thank you, Living and Eternal King, because you have graciously restored my soul to me; great is your faithfulness.”
5. One should pause between the words
6. One may say this prayer although his hands are not yet washed, since the name of G-d is not mentioned in it.
7. Judah, the son of Tema, said: “Be strong as a leopard, light as an eagle, swift as a deer, and mighty as a lion, to do the will of your Father Who is in Heaven.”
a) “Strong as a leopard” means that no man should be ashamed if people should mock him for serving G-d.
b) “Light as an eagle” refers to the vision of the eye. Be swift to shut your eyes from looking at evil things, for this may lead to sin.
c) “Swift as a deer” refers to the legs. Your feet should run swiftly to do good.
d) “Mighty as a lion” refers to the heart. A man should strengthen his heart, by conquering his evil desires, and engage only in the service of G-d.
8. As soon as one awakens, he should be ready to serve his Creator, and never allow his Yetzer Hora/evil impulse to sway him from getting up promptly.
For the past half a century the gentiles have on one hand pretended to be the friends of Jews for after the holocaust anti-Semitism was out of the question for any self respecting gentile (see Dr. Martin Luther King’s letter below) while at the same time – including the American government but not her people – demanding concessions to bloodthirsty Nazis as Arafat and co. were trained by the Nazis (in fact were influential in getting the Nazis to implement “the final solution”) for the simple reason it was in their sic oil inertest to do so.
Now the Palestinians refuse to recognize Israel as a Jewish state which really means that they are basing themselves on the “Saudi peace-plan” which is a total sham for it calls on Israel to take back the so called refuges – Arabs who were encouraged to leave Israel so their brothers could God-forbid slaughter all her Jews and then were not absorbed within the lands the left to. (Typical Arab snake tongues to their own, how much more so to us.)
So now Russia had prevented even the officially “peace seeking” Quartet Russia, E.U. U.S. and U.N from demanding the most basic of all peace agreements namely two states for two people, one Jews THE OTHER ARAB.
In it the Quartet exposes its inherent bias mentioned.
– Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.
“. . . You declare, my friend, that you do not hate the Jews, you are merely ‘anti-Zionist.’ And I say, let the truth ring forth from the high mountain tops, let it echo through the valleys of God’s green earth: When people criticize Zionism, they mean Jews–this is God’s own truth.
“Antisemitism, the hatred of the Jewish people, has been and remains a blot on the soul of mankind. In this we are in full agreement. So know also this: anti-Zionist is inherently antisemitic, and ever will be so.
“Why is this? You know that Zionism is nothing less than the dream and ideal of the Jewish people returning to live in their own land. The Jewish people, the Scriptures tell us, once enjoyed a flourishing Commonwealth in the Holy Land. From this they were expelled by the Roman tyrant, the same Romans who cruelly murdered Our Lord. Driven from their homeland, their nation in ashes, forced to wander the globe, the Jewish people time and again suffered the lash of whichever tyrant happened to rule over them.
“The Negro people, my friend, know what it is to suffer the torment of tyranny under rulers not of our choosing. Our brothers in Africa have begged, pleaded, requested–DEMANDED the recognition and realization of our inborn right to live in peace under our own sovereignty in our own country.
“How easy it should be, for anyone who holds dear this inalienable right of all mankind, to understand and support the right of the Jewish People to live in their ancient Land of Israel. All men of goodwill exult in the fulfillment of God’s promise, that his People should return in joy to rebuild their plundered land.
This is Zionism, nothing more, nothing less.
“And what is anti-Zionist? It is the denial to the Jewish people of a fundamental right that we justly claim for the people of Africa and freely accord all other nations of the Globe. It is discrimination against Jews, my friend, because they are Jews. In short, it is antisemitism.
“The antisemite rejoices at any opportunity to vent his malice. The times have made it unpopular, in the West, to proclaim openly a hatred of the Jews. This being the case, the antisemite must constantly seek new forms and forums for his poison. How he must revel in the new masquerade! He does not hate the Jews, he is just ‘anti-Zionist’!
“My friend, I do not accuse you of deliberate antisemitism. I know you feel, as I do, a deep love of truth and justice and a revulsion for racism, prejudice, and discrimination. But I know you have been misled–as others have been–into thinking you can be ‘anti-Zionist’ and yet remain true to these heartfelt principles that you and I share.
Let my words echo in the depths of your soul: When people criticize Zionism, they mean Jews–make no mistake about it.”
From M.L. King Jr., “Letter to an Anti-Zionist Friend,”